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An Essay on Lessons

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Photos by Troy
Dress from Farmrio

As the year approaches it’s end, my self-reflection has taken a front seat to most other thoughts. Did I do what needed to be done this year? Am I proud of my progress? What seeds can I start planting now that will bear fruit in the coming year? But mostly, I’ve been harping on lessons I’ve learned.. grateful for them and the growth they brought. My [candid] thoughts are below:

  1. Let go of shit that does not serve you. I let go of so many things and people this year, and none with regret. Every bag I unpacked left me with a weightlessness I will forever be grateful for. Erykah wasn’t lying when she said “you gone hurt yo back draggin’ all them bags like that”
  2. Independence is another form of freedom. Living byself, working for myself, and being single have forced me into a self-sufficiency that I never knew I needed. I spend all of my resources on myself (time, energy, money) and it feels damn good. A little bit of selfishness is a vital part of self-care.
  3. I am worthy of good things. I’ve been so used to getting less than I deserved that I had forgotten my worth….or perhaps I’ve never even known it. When good things would happen a dibilitating disbelief would overcome me “I do not deserve this”.  I realize that was a lie I’ve been feeding myself based on past experiences. I am worth all of the great things that have been happening and that will happen in the future.
  4. Hard work actually and legitimately pays off. This year is a true testament to that.

As the days of 2019 fade away I’m sure I’ll have more lessons to share with you, but for now.. I would love to hear from you. What lessons did 2019 leave you with?