01 May Misfortunes
*photos by Paige Ricks*
Last month was probably one of the worst months of my life. My dog passed away, I went through 2 weeks of nonstop relationship issues, had the worst financial problems ever, nonstop anxiety attacks, I was full of self doubt, teetering depression, and to add insult to injury my car got stolen.
I should have given up. Everything inside of me wanted to. Most days it was a struggle just to get out of bed. I spent more time crying than smiling. I didn’t eat for an entire week (I lost an alarming 10 lbs. in 7 days). The
resiliency in me wouldn’t allow me to give up. So how did I keep going in the midst of my life’s wreckage?
I’m not a licensed mental health care professional, or any sort of professional at all for that matter. I am, however, a girl who was dealt a shitty hand of cards last month, but still managed to stay in the game. Below are a few things I did to get out of my rut.
- Pray. Whatever your religious belief is, lean on that. I actually went to church (after about 5 years of not going). I am not a practicing Christian (Nor am I atheist), but it felt great to be surrounded by such positivity. I felt hopeful in the presence of prayer.
- Meditate. Meditation helped ease the anxiety. I really focused on controlling my breathing and being intentional with relaxation.
- Change your perspective. You have the power to be positive, if you choose to be. After crying for days on end I decided to stop. I made a conscious decision to stop the self pity. Chasing away my self doubt and negativity was no easy task. I went to war with myself and won.
- Surround yourself with love. I spent most of last week sleeping over friends’ houses. They cooked for me, held me, did my hair, and reassured me of my greatness.
- Workout. I hate the gym, I really only go when forced. Last week I worked out 3 times. The first I was forced. But I must admit that it felt great to get my endorphins flowing. I felt so good that I worked out 2 times after.
- Pamper Yourself. This is something I’ve been slacking on doing. My eyebrows hadn’t been done in weeks. My nails were in disarray. My hair was dry and had started falling out due to stress. My skin (which is still recovering) was in shambles — very dry with a nonstop breakout.I set aside time to take care of my outside (deep conditioned my hair, tended to my skin, even mustered up enough energy to do my nails and toes.) Sometimes feeling good starts from the outside and works itself in.
- Learn to let go. This was by far the hardest lesson for me to learn. My car was stolen with half of my wardrobe in the trunk, all of my makeup, and a few sentimental things. I was extremely hurt. But those are just material things…I will acquire more things in life. I learned the same lesson with people. Sometimes you have to let people go, you will connect with new ones. Spring cleaning was forced upon me, and I learned to grow from it.
Have you guys ever had a tough day, week, month, year? If so, how were you able to get out of your rut?